What they don’t realize it has less to do with their spouse but the fact they are not happy with themselves. As weird as it sounds, try not to take what your husband did personal. Of course, it is personal but when he did that he was only thinking of himself. It had nothing to do with how pretty you are or how valuable you are but he went his base urges.
Over 50, Never Married and No Kids – Online Dater
I really feel this is too negative. As a 55 year old woman, it doesn’t correspond with my experience at all. I have kept in shape and work and looking good and being kind and interesting, positive not jaded. In the real world and online, I have men from mid 40s onward interested.
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I haven’t had much luck with guys my age, in their 50s, but I never had much luck with them in my 20s, 30s, 40s. This is definitely a generational thing…and my generation just did not produce great relational partners. We are the transitional generation. The peanutbutter between the baby boomers and turn of the century kids. We got the shaft being middle kids.
I have the stamina and grounding to make it for the long haul, but that doesn’t seem to be important or appreciated. It really is hard to think of trusting again, but I have faith that I may just find one of you good guys some day. I am sorry for how you’ve been treated. I too was cheated on, by more than one man. I can relate to the pain and betrayal, especially when you’re married.
I knew it was best for me to end it with this girl. I was able to be with one last person in Jun 2000. In the year 2000, I was 38 and for 20 years, I have been trying to find a new woman, to have a relationship with. The most difficult thing in life, is to get, just a date with a woman. When I read a statement like “Dating in your 50″s – Easy for Men… Not so much for Women” I say, is this a joke.
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How can one say after 4 years “your not who i thought you were” surely after year one you know who the person your with is. One has to ask what is going on with people nowadays. If 💰 is easy for you, I’ll give “relationship” for 💰.
Woman need emotional connection to stay connected. Men need sexual attention to complete the connection. The most important ties to make after 50 if you are alone, are meaningful friendships.
My problem is finding a man who wants a deep, meaningful connection without concerns for materialism and baggage from the past. I am an idealist, but times have changed. I don’t see that many men take care of themselves or care to have any type of affectionate relationship.
Whereas a married man does not place emphasis on an aging woman’s looks, when you are single, you are not thinking with the same parameters. Older women seem to have this wierd expectation and baggage that is not really reflective of the give-take, role-based relationship that men actually want. It almost always comes out right on the first date and you have to engage in this wierd fake dialog. I believe in equality…and reality. I didn’t play games in high school.
I am 50, separated, soon to be divorced, 4 kids from 11 to 20. Active father, doting husband, in shape, blah blah. My wife secretmatureaffair.com told me that things have changed and that she must move on , Child support and alimony will total almost 4K a month.
Sounds like misconception of what’s going on, mixed with Some good advice. Just like you don’t like being called a baby because you’re younger, this man doesn’t like it when you make jokes about him being an old man. If age really doesn’t matter to you, you won’t make an issue of it. It will take time for his friends and family to accept you. Be gracious when you’re with them, and do your best to engage them in conversations to show that you’re interested in developing a relationship with them. “If you’re prepared to deal with an ex-wife and make time to do things with your guy’s children, you might be ok looking for someone with young children or shared custody arrangements,” says Rappaport.
Actually my last “girlfriend” was Canadian. I admit physical attraction still plays a big part of the original interest. I am financially secure, a good communicator and listener, and sensitive. I always wanted an equal to converse with and also dual support. Looks help the start but mean little long term.
Women past menopause are no longer interested in being physical which is not their fault it is just fact. I guess I may be different than most women out there but I am ok with that. I believe every person deserves a chance to be their best selves.
I wasn’t a badass, wasn’t tall enough, didn’t bring in enough money, blah, blah. These are not just bitching, these are naturally the qualities women seem to want most, and most women will not alter their perceptions. It is automatically assumed I am gay because of my job, and the fact that I’m an artistic type . It was pretty frustrating to be regularly rejected in favor of shallow vapid types with status/money/height, but it is the way it is, I guess.